23/11/2025

ON SUNDAY November 23, 2025 theSunday Special IX

When your dream changes shape

Dreams evolve … the original shape may fade, but the essence can remain.

BY CECELIA FONG

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Quiet redirection … letting go doesn’t mean you failed.

You’re not meant to live your whole life in alignment with a 22-year-old’s fantasy.”

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